Autism acceptance idea #1: Recognize that we are not being "difficult". We are not trying purposely to inconvenience you when we scream at a loud noise or tear off the sweater you just bought us. Autism is a NEUROLOGICAL disorder involving, in part, the frontal & temporal lobes. These are areas responsible for impulse control and sensory input. We make accommodations EVERY DAY to function in a world that thrives on noise and distractions bombarding us on multiple fronts. It is not asking too much when we ask you to turn the music down, close the car window or to buy only cotton clothing.
Autism acceptance idea #2: Remember that autism is pervasive; it affects the entire brain, including but not limited to the frontal and temporal lobes. Medical procedures such as PET scans and Complex EEG show that our brains are always "on". We rarely get a rest from our over-processing brains and as a result may even suffer sleep disorder. Give us extra time in responding to a command or question. You may even have to repeat yourself. This may be irritating to you, and we assure you that the ongoing struggle to avoid sensory overload and respond inappropriately is surely irritating to us. Work on things such as kindness and patience. Treat us as you wish you could be treated. Forgive. A lot. These last 2 statements are ones we ALL can practice!
Autism acceptance idea #3: Be patient! Be kind! Don't expect us to always accomplish tasks based on your time table. Don't call us degrading names such as "spaz" or the "R" word to justify your impatience. In a society dominated and dictated by instant gratification dispensed at lighting speed, remember that you too are often burning out trying to please someone else. Sometimes personal experience is the only teacher. Humility is a beautiful virtue, and it is not a respecter of persons.